Approaching Large Groups is Easier Than You Think
24 07 2007
Recently I coached PickUp 101’s The Art of Attraction workshop in Los Angeles. I was out with a very outgoing student named Matt on Saturday night on the Sunset Strip. We walked out of a club into the dining area of the hotel and I saw a table of five women drinking beer.
“You’ve got balls tonight, right?” I asked him.
“Why, what do you see?”
I pointed to the table and told him to walk up and ask what they were celebrating. I love this question for big groups. It’s a great conversation starter. If the group is all women, it’s often a birthday or bachelorette party and it is usually easy to guess which one, virtually ensuring a warm reception.
Matt, using the body language skills we taught him, sauntered up like he was on Her Majesty’s Secret Service and asked his question. As friendly as I expected they would be, they were all soon having a great time.
I strolled up a minute later. What were they celebrating? Nothing. They had arrived in LA from England for work, did not know anyone and were bored to tears on a Saturday night. There is no greater shame in my world than letting lovely ladies continue to wish they were having a good time. Matt’s presence was a welcome diversion and we soon had them laughing and joking. It wasn’t long before the gorgeous brunette furthest from us in the booth was engaged in conversation with that sexy bastard who brightened their night, my man Matt.
Far from interrupting, Matt did something most guys are afraid to do. This includes guys who are accustomed to approaching beautiful women. I’ve found that groups of people, however, are usually a hell of a lot of fun. They are already doing something, so you are usually not an intrusion. They easily split off into smaller groups if you want to chat with someone you like. It’s a great way to meet most of the friends of the woman you are attracted to in one time and place and show them that you are a likable guy that is worthy of their girl.
From a broader social standpoint, it’s an amazing way to find an entire social circle in one shot. Of course you may not make friends with everyone and you may not hit it off with every group you meet, but if one group likes you, you have an instant crew of friends.
Next time you see a group in a night club or bar, try going up and asking what they are celebrating. High five the birthday girl or guy and stay and chat. You’re likely to meet at least some people you like to hang out with, play poker with or date.
There are a lot of ways to cultivate the situation once you are there, but the simplest is to say “We should hang out sometime” to the people you like and set up a time to see them again.
That doesn’t sound too hard, now does it?
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