Natural Social Skills

Check out my interview with Eric a.k.a. Disco at ApproachAnxiety.com.

From the post:

“A lot of guys get into this thinking that they’ll be happier when they can meet more women, or when they can be dating several women simultaneously, or when they get a girlfriend.

I think what they realize is that they are looking for something bigger, they’re looking for a sense of satisfaction in their lives.

Sure, beautiful women are a big part of that. I know they are for me. I’m really interested in having great friends in my life and women that I’m really attracted to, but for me there’s a lot more to it than that.”

Click here to read the post and listen to the interview.

One thing I’ve learned about the “community” is that there are a great number of redundant and useless euphemisms and acronyms. Many of these are borrowed from NLP, psychology and a variety of other places. I will confess to not caring much about the origins of these terms because many of them seem very manipulative or overly analytical. Of these, one of the terms I like the least is State.

State is a euphemism for one’s mood or how one feels. I wish I could count the number of times I have heard guys complaining about how they didn’t do well some night because they weren’t “in state” or they need to “change their state.” Somehow, it’s a more legitimate excuse to justify not doing something when the grandiose term state is used rather than simply being honest and saying they weren’t in the mood, or were pissed off, or weren’t feeling confident.

Using state as a reason not to approach or as a reason to justify a bad set only hurts the person using it. Read the rest of this entry »