Natural Social Skills » Socializing

Approaching Large Groups is Easier Than You Think

info — Tue, 24 Jul 2007 22:01:31 +0000

Recently I coached PickUp 101’s The Art of Attraction workshop in Los Angeles. I was out with a very outgoing student named Matt on Saturday night on the Sunset Strip. We walked out of a club into the dining area of the hotel and I saw a table of five women drinking beer.

“You’ve got balls tonight, right?” I asked him.

“Why, what do you see?”

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You Had Me at Hello: The Most Important Social Skill You’ll Ever Need

info — Thu, 31 May 2007 14:52:50 +0000

I recently traveled to Costa Rica with a friend of mine. Despite being a dating and social skills coach for PickUp 101, I learned something that surprised me about meeting people:

All I really needed to do was say hello.

Now this may sound obvious, but how often do we see someone we’d like to talk to and say nothing? How often do we chastise ourselves for days when a simple word would have allowed us to sleep at night because we had the nerve to at least speak to the amazing woman sitting only a few feet away?

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Social Agendas Limit Your Opportunities

info — Wed, 27 Dec 2006 04:34:49 +0000

When was the last time you started a conversation with a group of seated women in a social environment like a bar or party? A couple? A group of five or more women? A group with six guys and one woman? A group of all guys? One dude standing alone?

If you answered “not recently” or “not ever”, you are missing out on all kinds of possibilities, not just the possibility of meeting a great woman.

It seems to me there are at least two major schools of thought in this game. The first, and possibly more popular, is the â€œtarget the hot girls and deal aggressively with potential threats from other guys.â€ Personally, I find this approach tiresome, difficult and not a lot of fun. My goal is to have a rich and varied social life and to get to know the myriad of fascinating people in the world. (more…)