Natural Social Skills

One thing I’ve learned about the “community” is that there are a great number of redundant and useless euphemisms and acronyms. Many of these are borrowed from NLP, psychology and a variety of other places. I will confess to not caring much about the origins of these terms because many of them seem very manipulative or overly analytical. Of these, one of the terms I like the least is State.

State is a euphemism for one’s mood or how one feels. I wish I could count the number of times I have heard guys complaining about how they didn’t do well some night because they weren’t “in state” or they need to “change their state.” Somehow, it’s a more legitimate excuse to justify not doing something when the grandiose term state is used rather than simply being honest and saying they weren’t in the mood, or were pissed off, or weren’t feeling confident.

Using state as a reason not to approach or as a reason to justify a bad set only hurts the person using it. Read the rest of this entry »