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	<title>Natural Social Skills</title>
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	<pubDate>Fri, 31 Aug 2007 16:38:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<title>Approaching Large Groups is Easier Than You Think</title>
		<link>http://www.naturalsocialskills.com/2007/07/24/approaching-large-groups-is-easier-than-you-think/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 24 Jul 2007 22:01:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Recently I coached PickUp 101&#8217;s The Art of Attraction workshop in Los Angeles.  I was out with a very outgoing student named Matt on Saturday night on the Sunset Strip.  We walked out of a club into the dining area of the hotel and I saw a table of five women drinking beer.
&#8220;You&#8217;ve [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img src="http://www.naturalsocialskills.com/blog/images/279569_cheers.jpg" style="border: 1px solid black; margin: 4px" align="left" height="153" width="230" />Recently I coached PickUp 101&#8217;s <a href="http://pickup101.directtrack.com/z/15/CD26/" title="The Art of Attraction" target="_blank">The Art of Attraction</a> workshop in Los Angeles.  I was out with a very outgoing student named Matt on Saturday night on the Sunset Strip.  We walked out of a club into the dining area of the hotel and I saw a table of five women drinking beer.</p>
<p>&#8220;You&#8217;ve got balls tonight, right?&#8221; I asked him.</p>
<p>&#8220;Why, what do you see?&#8221;</p>
<p> <a href="http://www.naturalsocialskills.com/2007/07/24/approaching-large-groups-is-easier-than-you-think/#more-32" class="more-link">(more&#8230;)</a></p>
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		<title>Approach Women With Confidence: Mini-workshop in New York City</title>
		<link>http://www.naturalsocialskills.com/2007/07/10/approach-women-with-confidence-mini-workshop-in-new-york-city/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 11 Jul 2007 02:55:06 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Eric AKA Disco and I will be giving a mini-workshop in New York City this Saturday Night.  Come check it out.  You can meet me and Eric, get some valuable coaching, then hit the streets to meet some women!
Here are the details:
Want to learn to get past your fear of talking to beautiful [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Eric AKA Disco and I will be giving a mini-workshop in New York City this Saturday Night.  Come check it out.  You can meet me and Eric, get some valuable coaching, then hit the streets to meet some women!</p>
<p>Here are the details:</p>
<p>Want to learn to get past your fear of talking to beautiful women you don&#8217;t know? Or maybe you already know how to approach women and want to get really good at it. What they&#8217;re not telling you is that&#8230;</p>
<p><strong>You already have everything you need to attract beautiful women.</strong></p>
<p>Learn how to bring it out naturally through exercises and confidence building. It works&#8211;and we&#8217;ll show you how. Forget the canned lines. Generate attraction the best way possible&#8211;by being yourself.</p>
<p>This Saturday, two of Pickup 101&#8217;s top coaches, Eric a.k.a. Disco and Dave Stern, will be giving a mini-workshop on Approaching With Confidence. There will be live demonstrations, free coaching, and an open Q&amp;A, all designed to help you find that inner &#8220;cool&#8221; guy and date the women you only dreamed of!</p>
<p>Normally these coaches charge $200-300 an hour for coaching. This is the only time we are holding this specially priced two-hour workshop. The cost is $40 online, $52 at the door. When you leave you will have a gameplan for confidence with real-world skills you can use right away&#8211;guaranteed!</p>
<p><strong>Time and Date<br />
</strong> Saturday, July 14, 2007<br />
6:00 pm ET - 8:00 pm ET</p>
<p><strong>Location<br />
</strong> Ripley Grier Studios<br />
520 8th Ave<br />
New York, NY</p>
<p><strong>Cost<br />
</strong> $40 Pre-pay, $52 at the door</p>
<p>Sign Up Here: <a href="http://approachwithconfidence.eventbrite.com/">http://approachwithconfidence.eventbrite.com/</a></p>
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		<title>My Interview on ApproachAnxiety.com</title>
		<link>http://www.naturalsocialskills.com/2007/06/19/my-interview-on-approachanxietycom/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 19 Jun 2007 15:34:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Check out my interview with Eric a.k.a. Disco at ApproachAnxiety.com.
From the post:
â€œA lot of guys get into this thinking that theyâ€™ll be happier when they can meet more women, or when they can be dating several women simultaneously, or when they get a girlfriend.
I think what they realize is that they are looking for something [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Check out <a target="_blank" href="http://approachanxiety.com/?p=118">my interview</a> with Eric a.k.a. Disco at <a target="_blank" href="http://approachanxiety.com">ApproachAnxiety.com</a>.</p>
<p>From the post:</p>
<p>â€œA lot of guys get into this thinking that theyâ€™ll be happier when they can meet more women, or when they can be dating several women simultaneously, or when they get a girlfriend.</p>
<p>I think what they realize is that they are looking for something bigger, theyâ€™re looking for a sense of satisfaction in their lives.</p>
<p>Sure, beautiful women are a big part of that. I know they are for me. Iâ€™m really interested in having great friends in my life and women that Iâ€™m really attracted to, but for me thereâ€™s a lot more to it than that.â€</p>
<p><a target="_blank" href="http://approachanxiety.com/?p=118">Click here</a> to read the post and listen to the interview.</p>
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		<title>You Had Me at Hello: The Most Important Social Skill You&#8217;ll Ever Need</title>
		<link>http://www.naturalsocialskills.com/2007/05/31/you-had-me-at-hello-the-most-important-social-skill-youll-ever-need/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 31 May 2007 14:52:50 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I recently traveled to Costa Rica with a friend of mine.  Despite being a dating and social skills coach for PickUp 101, I learned something that surprised me about meeting people:
All I really needed to do was say hello.
Now this may sound obvious, but how often do we see someone we&#8217;d like to talk [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img src="http://www.naturalsocialskills.com/blog/images/423943_sunny_day.jpg" style="border: 1px solid black; margin: 4px" align="left" height="172" width="230" />I recently traveled to Costa Rica with a friend of mine.  Despite being a dating and social skills coach for <a href="http://pickup101.directtrack.com/z/19/CD26/">PickUp 101</a>, I learned something that surprised me about meeting people:</p>
<p>All I really needed to do was say hello.</p>
<p>Now this may sound obvious, but how often do we see someone we&#8217;d like to talk to and say nothing?  How often do we chastise ourselves for days when a simple word would have allowed us to sleep at night because we had the nerve to at least speak to the amazing woman sitting only a few feet away?</p>
<p> <a href="http://www.naturalsocialskills.com/2007/05/31/you-had-me-at-hello-the-most-important-social-skill-youll-ever-need/#more-28" class="more-link">(more&#8230;)</a></p>
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		<title>Social Agendas Limit Your Opportunities</title>
		<link>http://www.naturalsocialskills.com/2006/12/27/social-agendas-limit-your-opportunities/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 27 Dec 2006 04:34:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[When was the last time you started a conversation with a group of seated women in a social environment like a bar or party? A couple? A group of five or more women? A group with six guys and one woman? A group of all guys? One dude standing alone?
If you answered &#8220;not recently&#8221; or [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When was the last time you started a conversation with a group of seated women in a social environment like a bar or party? A couple? A group of five or more women? A group with six guys and one woman? A group of all guys? One dude standing alone?</p>
<p>If you answered &#8220;not recently&#8221; or &#8220;not ever&#8221;, you are missing out on all kinds of possibilities, not just the possibility of meeting a great woman.</p>
<p>It seems to me there are at least two major schools of thought in this game.  The first, and possibly more popular, is the â€œtarget the hot girls and deal aggressively with potential threats from other guys.â€  Personally, I find this approach tiresome, difficult and not a lot of fun.  My goal is to have a rich and varied social life and to get to know the myriad of fascinating people in the world. <a href="http://www.naturalsocialskills.com/2006/12/27/social-agendas-limit-your-opportunities/#more-6" class="more-link">(more&#8230;)</a></p>
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		<title>Persistence and Patience</title>
		<link>http://www.naturalsocialskills.com/2006/11/17/persistence-and-patience/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Nov 2006 22:00:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<category><![CDATA[Confidence]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve been noticing a process that occurs when men start learning how to meet women. At first, we take on the role of a cool, social guy by learning it from other guys who really understand how to go out, have fun and meet interesting people. This may be an uncomfortable and awkward character to [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;ve been noticing a process that occurs when men start learning how to meet women. At first, we take on the role of a cool, social guy by learning it from other guys who really understand how to go out, have fun and meet interesting people. This may be an uncomfortable and awkward character to play for people who have never lived this way. The role, however, helps us discover the truly attractive traits that we already possess. Soon, you realize you already have the raw components and many, if not all, of the words or routines fall away when you&#8217;ve internalized this new perspective.  You don&#8217;t become an attractive man, you discover you already were one.</p>
<p>What you are really conveying through words and action is that you are an interesting person who doesn&#8217;t have to settle, that you have a full and varied social life and that you are not dependent on anything or anyone to satisfy you.  <a href="http://www.naturalsocialskills.com/2006/11/17/persistence-and-patience/#more-16" class="more-link">(more&#8230;)</a></p>
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		<title>Myths about &#8220;State&#8221;</title>
		<link>http://www.naturalsocialskills.com/2006/11/03/myths-about-state/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 03 Nov 2006 15:47:19 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[One thing I&#8217;ve learned about the &#8220;community&#8221; is that there are a great number of redundant and useless euphemisms and acronyms.  Many of these are borrowed from NLP, psychology and a variety of other places.  I will confess to not caring much about the origins of these terms because many of them seem [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>One thing I&#8217;ve learned about the &#8220;community&#8221; is that there are a great number of redundant and useless euphemisms and acronyms.  Many of these are borrowed from NLP, psychology and a variety of other places.  I will confess to not caring much about the origins of these terms because many of them seem very manipulative or overly analytical.  Of these, one of the terms I like the least is <em>State.  </em></p>
<p><em>State </em>is a euphemism for one&#8217;s mood or how one feels. I wish I could count the number of times I have heard guys complaining about how they didn&#8217;t do well some night because they weren&#8217;t &#8220;in state&#8221; or they need to &#8220;change their state.&#8221; Somehow, it&#8217;s a more legitimate excuse to justify not doing something when the grandiose term <em>state</em> is used rather than simply being honest and saying they weren&#8217;t in the mood, or were pissed off, or weren&#8217;t feeling confident.</p>
<p>Using state as a reason not to approach or as a reason to justify a bad set only hurts the person using it.   <a href="http://www.naturalsocialskills.com/2006/11/03/myths-about-state/#more-3" class="more-link">(more&#8230;)</a></p>
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		<title>Welcome to Natural Social Skills</title>
		<link>http://www.naturalsocialskills.com/2006/10/17/welcome-to-natural-social-skills/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 17 Oct 2006 23:39:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I created this blog to present a unique perspective on social interactions.  Since taking a course with Pickup 101 my perception of how men and women relate has been forever changed.  Already a social person before the course, what I observe now has dramatically expanded thanks to great coaching and a lot of [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I created this blog to present a unique perspective on social interactions.  Since taking a course with <a target="_blank" href="http://pickup101.com/cmd.php?af=505676">Pickup 101</a> my perception of how men and women relate has been forever changed.  Already a social person before the course, what I observe now has dramatically expanded thanks to great coaching and a lot of practice in learning to go beyond what I previously thought possible in meeting new people.  I&#8217;ll be presenting some new ideas not only on how men and women relate, but also insights into building a social network to enrich your life.  Enjoy and let me know what you think along the way.</p>
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